Compassionate Communication 6-week Class

In Irvine:   Thursdays 7-9pm. Starts *THIS WEEK*- March 3.

6 week class Mar. 3-Apr. 7


Do you want to speak in a way that makes compassion real and active? Are you frustrated about misunderstanding or lack of connection at work or at home? Or do you just want to learn a way of speaking that heals and connects people? With Compassionate Communication you can translate language that labels, diagnoses, judges or blames into language that builds connection, understanding, trust and respect. Previous participants are welcome to drop in. Download the flyer here. 

Led by Terry LePage at the Center for Living Peace, 4139 Campus Drive, across from UCI, between Lee's and Focus Dance. Request $90 for the 6-week series. Reduced cost and work trade available; ask Terry. Register at the door or online at www.goodhappens.org or call 949-854-5500.

For more information call 949-400-3379 or email Terry. Series may be postponed if we have low enrollment.

NVC class for siblings & friend relationships

Thursday, February 24, 2011 7:00pm to 9:00pm

MASTER CLASS ON SIBLINGS AND FRIENDS:
A Laboratory for intimacy
Taught by  Ruth Beaglehole

“Why don’t my kids ever get along? They don’t listen to me! I need tools!!” ...If this sounds familiar, this workshop is for you. Examine how siblings learn about (and practice having) relationships. Explore tools to help your children communicate and relate to their friends and siblings.

Location 

Center For Living Peace

4139 Campus Drive

Irvine

Province: California

92612

949.854.5500

We are located in the University Center shopping complex between Focus Dance Studio and Lee's Sandwiches.

FEE

$50 per person or $75 per couple. Scholarships are available; we want all to
participate. All proceeds go to funding The Echo Center’s mission. They said it is pay what you can if the requested cost is too much for you.

For more info., click here.




Ruth Beaglehole, M.A. is the founder and executive director of The Echo Center
(formerly the Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting), a nonprofit
committed to supporting parents and professionals to raise children free from
all forms of violence. She has studied, taught and written on the topic of
nonviolence in childraising for fifty years, and is a prominent expert on all
topics related to raising children. Ruth is the author of numerous articles and
the book Mama, Listen. She is a mother of three, grandmother of six, loving
supporter of thousands of children whose lives she's touched, and advocate to
all children worldwide. www.theechocenter.org.

Compassionate Communication 6-week series

Everyday Peacemaking: Compassionate Communication 6-week series- Download the flyer here. In Irvine:

Thursdays 7-9pm. 6-week series starts January 6. 

Do you want to speak in a way that makes compassion real and active? Are you frustrated about misunderstanding or lack of connection at work or at home? Or do you just want to learn a way of speaking that heals and connects people? With Compassionate Communication you can translate language that labels, diagnoses, judges or blames into language that builds connection, understanding, trust and respect. Led by Terry LePage at the Center for Living Peace, 4139 Campus Drive, across from UCI, between Lee's and Focus Dance. Request $90 for the 6-week series. Reduced cost available; ask Terry. Register at the door or online at www.goodhappens.org or call 949-854-5500. For more information call 949-400-3379 or email Terry. 

www.OpenDoorCommunication.org

949-400-3379

Practicing Holiday Peace Workshop

Practicing Holiday Peace: Saturday December 11,  11:00am to 1:00pm. In Irvine:

Take a little time for yourself in this busy season. Relieve holiday stress using the powerful tools of Compassionate Communication. Get clear about what you need to enjoy the holidays. Express what's bugging you in a respectful way. Put challenges in perspective. Get tools for facing that "difficult" family member. And more! Peacemaking begins in daily life, so why get the benefits this holiday season?

Ages 16 and up welcome, no experience necessary. Bring your real life situations for transformation.

Request $15 or what you can afford. . Led by Terry LePage at the Center for Living Peace, 4139 Campus Drive, across from UCI, between Lee's and Focus Dance. Pre-registration greatly appreciated- online at www.goodhappens.org or call 949-854-5500. For more information call 949-400-3379 or email Terry

Diet for Pregnant and Nursing Mothers

As a follow-up to Gwynne and Julia's wonderful presentation of intro. to the Weston Price health philosophy, I found this on the westonaprice.org website. I have become more and more interested in this health philosophy as Sage has two chipped teeth with plaque on them that look like are decaying. I am hoping a diet change for our family will help prevent this from getting worse.

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Weston Price's Diet for Pregnant and Nursing Mothers

• Cod Liver Oil to supply 20,000 IU vitamin A and 2000 IU vitamin D per day
• 1 quart (or 32 ounces) whole milk daily, preferably raw and from pasture-fed cows (learn more about raw milk on our website, A Campaign for Real Milk, www.realmilk.com)
• 4 tablespoons butter daily, preferably from pasture-fed cows
• 2 or more eggs daily, preferably from pastured chickens
• Additional egg yolks daily, added to smoothies, salad dressings, scrambled eggs, etc.
• 3-4 ounces fresh liver, once or twice per week (If you have been told to avoid liver for fear of getting "too much Vitamin A," be sure to read Vitamin A Saga)
• Fresh seafood, 2-4 times per week, particularly wild salmon, shellfish and fish eggs
• Fresh beef or lamb daily, always consumed with the fat
• Oily fish or lard daily, for vitamin D
• 2 tablespoons coconut oil daily, used in cooking or smoothies, etc.
• Lacto-fermented condiments and beverages
• Bone broths used in soups, stews and sauces
• Soaked whole grains
• Fresh vegetables and fruits

AVOID:

• Trans fatty acids (e.g., hydrogenated oils)
• Junk foods
• Commercial fried foods
• Sugar
• White flour
• Soft drinks
• Caffeine
• Alcohol
• Cigarettes
• Drugs (even prescription drugs)

Here's another article on their site I found interesting:
meal planning strategies for families

Tustin Preschool Garage Sale

Here are the details for the long awaited Tustin Community Preschool Garage Sale. Last year I got a bunch of great girls clothes for $1 each. They also have clothes for adults, toys, books, furniture, etc. Can't wait!

Annual Garage Sale

Friday, Nov 19th - Saturday, Nov 20th

225 West Main Street
Tustin, CA 92780

Ph. 714.544.2398

• Friday 11/19: Open to the public 7am to 3pm
• Saturday 11/20: Open to the public 7am to noon

Your treasure awaits at our massive multi-family garage sale!

Sale located in the Tustin Presbyterian Church Fellowship Hall.
http://tustincommunitypreschool.org/news-detail.aspx?id=62

Siblings Without Rivalry Workshop

This is a six-week workshop based on the award-winning book Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.

The goal of the Siblings Without Rivalry workshop is to help you help your children learn to live together. During each session you will learn and practice specific skills that reduce friction and make harmony possible. You'll find out how to:

Help children express negative feelings without hurting each other.

Treat children unequally and still be fair.

Free your children from harmful roles such as "bully" or "victim."

Respond helpfully when children fight.

Promote an atmosphere of cooperation rather than competition.

Resolve conflicts peacefully.


What the Sessions Cover

1. Helping Siblings Deal With Their Feeling About Each Other

What happens to your children when their hostile feelings for each other are ignored or denied? Four specific methods for children expressing their negative feelings to each other without doing damage.

2. Keeping Children Separate and Unequal

How siblings react when compared to each other -- favorably or unfavorably. Effective alternatives to comparisons. How siblings feel about always being treated equally. Ways to treat children unequally and still be fair.

3. Siblings in Roles

Why your children are often cast, and cast each other, into different roles. A look at how powerfully these roles affect their relationships with each other. Skills that free each child to become his or her whole self.

4. When the Kids Fight

What can you do when fighting breaks out between children? An exploration of commonly used strategies that backfire. A chance to practice the skills that reduce rage and motivate children to work out their own solutions.

5. Problem Solving

A method for helping children with the problems they can't work out by themselves. A simple ten-step approach that enables adults to sit down with the young combatants who then move toward resolving their conflicts.

6. A Final Review

Time to review and consolidate your skills. Exercises give you practice in applying everything you learned to potentially explosive situations. Finally, an opportunity to take a second look at your own adult sibling relationships from your new perspective.


Details

When:
Six Sundays: Oct 24, Oct 31, Nov 7, Nov 14, Nov 21, Nov 28

Sessions will begin at 10:00 a.m. and continue for 1 1/2 to 2 hours.

Where:
Home in Orange, CA (directions will be sent to participants)

Cost:

Option #1 -- $45
(Includes workbook and Siblings Without Rivalry book. Supplies will be distributed on the first day of the workshop.)

Option #2 -- $30
(Includes workbook only -- please choose this option if you already own the Siblings Without Rivalry book. Remember to bring your book to the workshop!)

Attachment Parenting International of Orange County members will receive a $5 discount.

Other discounts/scholarships (i.e. for significant others or hardship need) will be considered on a case-by-case basis.

Facilitator:
Angela Adams

Minimum of 5, maximum of 8 participants.

**You must be registered by October 18 to participate.**

For more information, please contact Angela at apioforangecounty at yahoo dot com

siblingswithoutrivalry.blogspot.com

Parenting Class

In Irvine: Discover More Loving Relationships with Your Children. Download the flyer here.

Ten week series starting THIS SATURDAY Sept. 11 (no class 10/23.) Saturday Mornings 10 am to Noon.

Learn practical ways to create a more peaceful home and create deep, positive emotional connections with each family member. Get the tools you need to love, support and guide your child without resorting to nagging, shaming, threatening, or bribing. Discussion groups, theory, role-playing, specific problem solving and topics such as empathy and dealing with anger are part of the curriculum. You learn to become an emotional coach to your child; building a framework of emotional literacy, balancing close emotional connection with respect, and setting limits without punishment, shaming or bribes. For most adults, this class is a life changing experience. Each class cycle is ten weeks long; please sign up for the whole series even if you cannot make every session. Grandparents, teachers and others who work with children are welcome. Newcomers, make-ups and drop-ins welcome; check out weekly topics here. Led by Terry LePage, CNVEP-certified parent educator. At the Center for Living Peace, across from UCI in the Marketplace, 4139 Campus Drive. Request is $250 for the 10-week series. Reduced cost available; ask Terry,Please register in advance at www.goodhappens.org, or call 949-854-5500. Series may be postponed if we have low enrollment.

Open Door Communication Tips - Sept.

Communication Tip: The Power of Observation
Neurologists have discovered that our brains are hard-wired to make assumptions: to see categories, labels and judgments, instead of unfiltered reality: what is really here. We even see patterns where none exist! Fortunately we also have the brain power to catch our assumptions and ask ourselves, "What am I actually observing, as a video camera would record?" This simple question allows us to separate reality from our assumptions about reality. Observation is often the first step in the process of compassionate communication. As we practice observation regularly, we begin to realize that our interpretations of the meaning of others' behavior are only assumptions, not reality. Compassionate communication then invites us to interpret behavior only in terms of empathy: What feelings and needs might have been behind that person's behavior? What feelings and needs does their behavior spark in me? Making a clear observation is the first step in translating the assumptions that fuel fear and resentment into a language that serves life.

Parenting Tip: Repairing the Rupture
The wonderful intimate connection that most caregivers experience with babies and young children is not continuous. Sometimes people of any age just needs a little space. Sometimes the connection is ruptured by "big feelings." We know that young children do not intend to reject, shame or hurt us when they get upset. But they don't know the same about us: they are truly vulnerable to ruptured connections with the most important people in their lives. So when the big feelings are ours, we repair the rupture. When we have calmed, we express regret about our behavior, affirm that the child is safe and loved, and make it clear that we take responsiblility for our own big feelings. We can also reconnect through affection, attention, and play.

When we set a limit, even with love and empathy, a child's "big feelings" about the limit may be experienced as a rupture. At this point we are tempted to explain and defend our limit, which usually deepens the rupture. Instead, keep connection open on your side with empathy. "You really want ice cream now. It's hard to wait till after dinner." Then give the child space to to process feelings (safely) before reconnecting in a way that works for both of you.

As children grow into teens, they may temporarily disconnect from a parent to meet needs for autonomy and identity. Surges of hormones can also generate some very big feelings. It may not be easy to repair a rupture with a teen. Sometimes it may seem downright hopeless. Don't try until both of you are calm. Then invite a conversation where you really try to empathize with their point of view, and invite truly collaborative solutions for the future-- not critiquing the past. Teens need our respect, consideration, partnership, and unconditional love first. When we have been modeling these things, we can ask for them in return.

Written by Terry LePage from opendoorcommunication.org

Pretend City deal for 1 year olds

On the last page of OC Family magazine is an ad for Pretend City. It says that all 1 year olds are free for the week of 8/23-8/27. I went to the website and nothing is posted there about it. Normally the admission is $11 per child over 12 months and $11 for adult.

best,
dawn

Principles That Make Marriage Work

Here is the outline from today's topic summarizing the book 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.

Also, here are the repair phrases for helping a conflictual conversation have a softer start up, increasing the chances the conversation will come to resolution and end positively.

Thanks for listening today and participating in the discussion! Let me know if you'd like to give a summary of a book you've been reading lately.

Nutrition Seminar

What Does Your Gut Have To Do With Your Brain?

Cindy Dupuie, nutritionist

Come join us for a free seminar

Find out how a compromised digestive system can cause a Broken Brain. And how to fix it.

Saturday July 24^th 11:00 AM-12:00

Did you know that………..

v Most of your Immune system is in your gut.

v 90% of serotonin is made in your gut

v We are what we eat but just as importantly, we are what we can digest and absorb.

v Low stomach acid (taking antacids) can contribute to dementia and loss of energy

How can know if your digestive system is working properly?

ü By answering some specific questions. Have some test specific to Digestion and food sensitivities performed.

ü Review the answers/results with your health care professional

ü Determine together the eating and supplementation program best for you.

Symptoms are an indicator that things are not right

Symptoms of a compromised digestive system

v Bloating

v Aches and pains

v Allergies/Eczema

v Decreased stamina

v Headaches

v Anxiety/depression

v Food Allergies

v Acid Reflux

v IBS

v Foggy thinking

Harmony Heals Center

24351 Moulton Pkwy, Ste 120

Laguna Woods, Ca 92637

Phone: (949) 837.2751

TPh: (877) HELP 115

TFx: (888) 511. 5443

Info@harmonyheals.com